Conversations, much like everything in life, have an expiration date. Once the reason for talking fades, the words naturally follow. And there’s nothing tragic about that—it’s simply how things work. No forced exchanges, no unnecessary prolonging of something that no longer holds weight.
Some people struggle with this idea, as if every silence must be analyzed, as if the absence of conversation is some grand statement. But in reality, it’s quite simple: when there’s nothing left to say, we stop speaking. And that’s perfectly fine.
Expecting people to engage forever in conversations that no longer serve them is like expecting an old TV to suddenly start working again just because you really liked that one show it used to play. People move on, dynamics shift, and that’s not betrayal—it’s just life.
No judgment, no resentment. Just an understanding that we can’t expect from others what they can no longer give.
Let People Come, Let People Go—No Drama Required
One of the greatest freedoms in life is allowing people to leave when they choose to. No guilt trips, no “But we used to talk every day!” theatrics—just a simple acknowledgment that things change.
But here’s the key difference: letting people go does not mean slamming the door behind them. It doesn’t mean cutting ties or holding grudges. It simply means not holding anyone hostage to a version of the past that no longer exists. If they return, great. If they don’t, that’s fine too.
At the same time, I’m not here as an always-available customer support line. I don’t have an open-door policy with unlimited emotional labor. My time, my attention, and my energy are mine to manage. Some days, I feel like talking. Other days, I disappear into the comfort of my own world. And that’s not a problem—it’s just how I function.
This is who I am. I don’t expect people to entertain me when they don’t feel like it, and I extend myself the same courtesy. I engage when I want to, I withdraw when I need to, and neither should be mistaken for offense or indifference. It’s just balance.
Clear Limits, Open Doors
People often confuse acceptance with passivity, as if setting boundaries means shutting others out. But in reality, it’s the opposite. I have no issue keeping doors open—but I also make it very clear that I won’t be standing by the entrance, waiting anxiously for someone to walk through.
I’m not always available. I don’t always feel like talking. And that’s not an invitation for guilt—it’s just reality. I have no obligation to constantly engage, just as no one else does. It’s not about rejection or distance; it’s simply about understanding personal limits.
Some people will like this about me, some won’t. And that’s fine. Because at the end of the day, this isn’t about pleasing anyone—it’s about knowing myself and acting accordingly.
Acceptance, Not Apology
This isn’t about playing hard to get, making statements, or demanding people chase me for attention. It’s just about accepting that communication, like everything else in life, ebbs and flows. There’s no need to force it, analyze it, or expect it to stay constant.
It’s about understanding that silence is not rejection. Distance is not betrayal. And change is not a reason for bitterness.
So, let the people come, let the people go. No locked doors, no heavy expectations—just a clear understanding that I am who I am. Take it or leave it.
This is who I am.
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